In October I was getting so fed up with myself. I was checking Facebook every hour I think, 2 minutes here, 10 minutes there. All day every day, checking in. Then, at night, I would lay in bed and stare at my phone. I would say out loud, “10 more minutes, then I’m sleeping.” And of course. like most of you reading this, an hour or two would pass and I would finally just give a huge exhausted sigh and turn it off and go to sleep. I was missing sleep to flip through my damn phone, ridiculous. Sadder than that, at some point my husband would probably come upstairs and lay in bed next to me and do the same thing! Two humans side by side in bed staring at phones. It’s so gross.
So I was talking to a friend on the phone about how much I felt social media was taking from my life and she agreed. We decided to make a clean break for a month. Total solidarity and beginning immediately. Continue reading
Since my first child started growing inside of me I changed my ways. I was a smoker (occasional to habitual and back to occasional again) and I used “drugs” for all my ailments. Headache = Ibuprofen. Cold = Antihistamine. And on and on, like every other blue blooded American. The pharmaceutical industry is HUGE and getting bigger every year, all so that we can keep popping pills all day every day for no reason. Now I am aware I am not a doctor, but I also know that taking ibuprofen everyday has serious consequences on your health and body. Actually, taking any medicine on a weekly basis is ruining your body slowly each day. It’s a horrible cycle that we learn from birth and are told it’s no big deal. A pill for every ill.
It’s so hard, every man is different (right?). But after looking and looking I did find quite a few ideas that make me excited this year for Father’s Day and which will work for any and all of the male species. Here they are!
Since having my beautiful first child born into this world, my face has been, well, aging. Like, rapidly. When you never get to rest or have a full nights sleep (I don’t think I have woken up naturally in 3 years and I don’t see it happening anytime in the near future) your face can take the toll sadly. So last month I looked into the mirror and I was over it. The worst thing you can do about aging is nothing, and that’s exactly what I have been doing because “I’m tired” or “I don’t have time” blah blah blah. Enough is enough, I can’t be an old lady yet. And working day in and day out on beautiful actresses who care for their skin was enough for me to take this problem and reverse it.
So here are some causes and combatants of those terrible crinkly things so we can age gracefully damn it.
Obviously your Mother’s Day gift is in the hands of your (hopefully) magnificent husband who has spent his entire week dedicated to making it a perfect day for you. *Clear Throat*. But you also have some fun things to do for your Mother, as well as Grandmas and Great Grandmothers. Here are a few things you can make at home with the kids to give all the women in your family a special day!
1) A Card – Obvious one here, but this year we opted for the famous “Butterfly Feet” card and it is so cute I can’t stand it. This one is in the beginning stages and we will be adding a few more decorations but you get the idea. It’s messy, it won’t always be perfect, but the Grandmas with LOVE it. They can even cut out the feet portion and frame it. I used water colors and card stock.
2) A bookmark – This was hilarious. I haven’t finished it, I need to go tomorrow and buy a bookmark tassel to attach to the top, but this is the general idea. Have your little one stand with their hands up and snap a picture. Print the photo and cut around it. Glue the photo to colored construction paper and then cut around that. Hole punch the top where their hands are holding and tie in a bookmark tassel. The Grandmas will love this for their romance novels!!!! Just picture this example of 3 bookmarks with tassels and you will get the idea.
Lastly – Here is a last one I didn’t find time for but looks so easy and you can find these wood pieces at Michaels.
Wishing all you mommies out there an AMAZING Mother’s Day and hoping you get REST, breakfast in bed, a massage, a Starbucks, a cute card, a nap, lunch in bed, a movie, dinner, a foot rub, a glass of wine, a bubble bath, and any other indulgence that the female mind can possibly think up.
Kids take a toll on a marriage. They do. No denying this fact. We all have friends that talk about how wonderful their marriage is and how the kids made them stronger and more happy and I say quietly in my head “Yeah right.” Not they didn’t. Sure, your children may have strengthened a bond between you, of course. But then when it’s 2am and a child is scream crying because they have a cold and your husband didn’t put the medicine back in the medicine cabinet and you are forced to search the house because it is missing, don’t try and tell me your tone of voice you use with him is the same one you used before kids arrived. This new tone of voice coming from your body is hard core, demeaning, annoyed, cutting at times depending on the situation, and very ugly. Personally, you hate that your voice sounds like this and the words coming out are what they are, but hey, you are flippin’ tired as hell and your husband doesn’t do what in your mind are the easiest tasks to keep things in life straight forward and simple. I’m projecting. This is our situation and I’m sure some women have husbands who do the voice, but from what I hear it comes mostly from the mommy’s mouth because we are, after all, always right.
And this is the beginning. Then you take into account that you both have 500 more chores now with a baby around, less energy, less sleep, and of course way less sex. If you don’t have less sex, let’s face it. The sex you are having is more on a “let’s have sex” quickie style and then move on. The days seem to be over where your sex drive is thriving and it all seemed so much easier and more natural. It becomes the dreaded……..clockwork.
What inevitably happens now, without this connection, without the sex, without the loving words, is resentment. Anger. Frustration. Disconnect. And then that awful tone in your voice starts happening all the time.
So yes, this can be sad. This can take over. This can ruin or even end a marriage. But instead of sitting around thinking about how unhappy you are, maybe try a few positive things to help restore your love and connection. We all, myself included, find it easier to truck along and let the negative sides creep in without facing them straight on right away. The longer we wait and settle in, the harder it will be to dig out. This hole of resentment can get pretty deep if we let it. So let’s dig people.
Now that I have a three year old, the old games we have been using are old news. I can see it in his eyes every morning when he wakes up, this kid need to be stimulated. His brain is like a sponge needing to be filled with knowledge about the world around him. So, faced with the task of keeping him growing both in body and mind, I have tried several inventive activities (and am trying more every day) to keep him appeased. And of course I will let you in on my favorites AND least time consuming for mommies everywhere. And keeping up with my “use what you have in the home” theme, most of these you won’t send you out shopping….much.
There are so many reasons your baby may need formula and none of us expect it to happen to us, until it does. You may feel down about this happening to you, but you can’t beat yourself up about it. Your baby will thrive and be as healthy as any other baby no matter what you chose to do. Unfortunately it isn’t as easy as going to you local grocery store chain and buying the formula off the shelf, or even using a sample of formula given to you by your doctor. I have a long standing beef with the Food and Drug Administration in this country which I will not go into here, but I have learned since having kids not to trust anything off the shelf anymore. Most of the products you see on our shelves in America have ingredients that are banned in many countries. Crazy right? So when you are faced with a formula decision and are staring at the endless brands before you, don’t feel overwhelmed. Here is the best article I have ever found comparing each organic formula and the ingredients they contain to help you make the best choice for you and your baby.
Now, maybe you don’t want to jump into buying formula and would like to make your own? Formulas can be very very expensive and even the best ones have preservatives, so making your own at home will not only save you tons of money, but will be the healthiest option for your baby if they cannot have breast milk. It sounds like it would be hard to do, but in reality it’s very easy and only takes up to 10 minutes to make a day. This homemade option is fresh, healthy, and full of all the nutrients your baby needs to thrive without ingredients you may not want. Here is a full breakdown on how to make several types of formula (including options if your baby has a milk allergy) and also an amazing instructional video taking you through the steps. Again, if you have the energy, this is the best and most healthy option for your baby if breast milk is not an option.
Just remember you are an amazing mother, breast-feeding or not. And your baby will be happy, full of yummy food and grow to be big and strong with these wonderful and nutritious options.
These funny cards are easy to make at home and will make everyone who gets one smile from ear to ear. Here’s how:
- Take a photo of your little one holding a pole that is white. Umbrella pole, mop, whatever you can find.
- Put the picture on the computer and add font and hearts through some kind of photo editor. I use Pixlr Express.
- Print in 4 x 6 on card stock paper
- Cut out photo
- Make a small hole in the top of the pole image and slide the lollypop stick through
- Glue the photo onto previously cut to size red or pink construction paper
- That’s all folks
Hope you enjoy and Happy Valentine’s Day!!!
This is an awesome post, I have to say it. I wish this post existed when I was first pregnant. I have about 10 friends giving birth at roughly the same time this year, so I am inspired to let them know my essential must have list for their new babies. I swear I think we wasted at least a few thousand dollars on unnecessary items that we either never needed or the kids hated. Now, 3 years in and with 2 kids under my belt, I have a perfect honed down list of the items that will change your whole life. I will also write a few tips in here with each item that makes it easier, better and cheaper. And maybe at the end I will include the waste of time and money items as well. I included a trillion links to make your life easier.
I love mason jars. We drink from them, we put flowers and plants in them, we store baby food in them, they are a staple in our home. Mostly because it is the one type of glassware we don’t break. Plus, it has a lid and looks really cute. So here are some ideas for the mason jar lover out there who feels like having some fun crafty time with the little ones.
Wow, has my life been changed by using these guys. I’m an idiot. A good friend told me all about these about 2 years ago and while I did listen, I never fully explored or embraced the uses of essential oils. I loved them, I felt that they made my house smell amazing, but I didn’t fully encompass the healing powers until now. Flash forward to my second baby, little to no sleep, desperate, and I am reminded by several other mothers that essential oils may do the trick to help my baby sleep through the night (after I also break him of the atrociously bad sleep habits I had aided him in forming as well). My first night using essential oils on my 6 month old and IMMEDIATELY he sleeps 12 hours through the night and blew my mind. THE FIRST NIGHT. Talk about instant results!!!
Plastic is awful. I mean, it’s convenient and is easy to use and comes in all kinds of fun colors and patterns to seduce us, but underneath all that flirtation is a big skull and crossbones. I know, but my plastic is BPA free! Ok, good for your plastic. But scary new research has come out reporting that “almost all” commercially available BPA free plastics that were tested leached synthetic estrogens—even when they weren’t exposed to conditions known to unlock potentially harmful chemicals, such as the heat of a microwave, the steam of a dishwasher, or the sun’s ultraviolet rays. According to research, some BPA-free products actually released synthetic estrogens that were more potent than BPA. AH!!!
Okay, so I glance in my pantry and see that although I know I shouldn’t really be using plastics, I still have quite a bit that I use on a regular basis. Damn. Baby bottles, Continue reading
Are you ready for this? Or maybe you have already had kids and have gone through this. Either way, not one mommy would disagree with these cold hard facts about during and after labor. Here is what you are in store for.
1. No matter how much you prepare and how many cute colored bold fonted words you express onto paper in your perfect birth plan, labor is a war zone. You will never be able to predict exactly what kind of labor you will have, and almost always you will be sent back to medieval times when we were at our most primal forms of mankind. One minute you are finishing off your In-N-Out burger and basking in the sun as a respectable member of society, the next you are making low grunting tones and stomping around looking for a way to get to the damn hospital.
I have always had a bit of a sweet tooth. My husband used to scoff at me when we first started dating until I changed him over to my way of things and got him hooked on the sweets too. But he never really mowed down a batch of cookies the way I could. He would maybe have 4 or 5 and move on. Not me, I would easily get through the entire batch as a treat after breakfast. Then after lunch, maybe a pack of M&M’s. Then as a late afternoon snack I may have some Trader Joe’s Dark Chocolate Butter Cups, like a whole box. Then of course ice cream for after dinner. The cycle would repeat, and now 10 years later I am writing this post. After my second baby was born in March I used my lack of sleep as a great reason to just binge on my sugar. Like, BINGE. Sugar for breakfast, sugar for lunch, soda, Italian soda, Orangina, candies, and on and on and on and on and on. Candy in all corners of the house, wrappers everywhere. How are you so skinny after 2 kids Regan? Oh, well maybe it’s because I don’t eat any real food and sugar really fills me up so I really don’t have to eat much of anything else??? Then the day came. My 6 month old slept 12 hours right through the night. And the next night. And the next night. I suddenly had no “reason” for this type of sugar consumption anymore. No excuse. Yet here I was macking down on it day after day. I realized long ago I may have an actual addiction. Now I was staring in the mirror face to face with the reality that I did. I had a massive, ungodly addiction. One day at work, staring at the immense crafty table filled with all of my favorite junk foods, I decided to eat a banana. Then an apple. Then some raw nuts. Then water. I spent the 12 hour work day snacking on all things my body could actually use, and it was HARD. But I made it through!!! That night I went home and had a horrible headache, my first headache in 15 years. I went to sleep. When I woke up, I could barely move. My head was pounding, my brain was foggy, my arms were weak and I felt like I could throw up.